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Why People Ask for the Obvious Instead of Caring


Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are hungry without any money, and your close friend is eating before you without offering you anything, and they know you're broke? You may feel like they are not being considerate of your needs, but instead of offering to help, you have to ask them to share their food. That is the day I will have to go hungry AF

, and remember that; I can't even lie! This behavior is frustrating, and hurtful, leaving you feeling like your friend does not care about you. Unfortunately, this is a common occurrence, and it can make you wonder why people ask for the obvious instead of taking care of you. This blog post will explore why some people behave this way and what you can do about it.


The Psychology Behind Asking for the Obvious

People ask for the obvious because they want to feel needed. When someone asks for help, it gives them a sense of purpose and importance. They also feel they control the situation and can help solve the problem. However, this behavior can also be a sign of selfishness. Some people only want to help if they receive recognition or praise for their actions. They may not genuinely care about you; instead, they care about how helping you makes them feel.

Another reason people ask for the obvious is that they may not know how to care for others. Some people have not been taught how to empathize with others or show compassion. They may not understand that you are hungry, even if it is obvious to you. This behavior is not necessarily malicious but can still be hurtful and frustrating.

Lastly, some people ask for the obvious because they lack self-confidence. They may feel like they are not capable of taking care of you, and they do not want to make a mistake. By asking for help, they can avoid making a wrong decision and feel more confident in their ability to help you.


The Importance of Genuine Care

Genuine care is essential in any relationship. When someone genuinely cares about you, they will go out of their way to ensure you are okay without being asked. They will notice when you are hungry, tired, or upset and offer to help without expecting anything. This selfless, caring behavior shows that the person values you and your well-being.

On the other hand, if someone only helps you when you ask for it, they may not genuinely care about you. They may only be helping you to make themselves feel better or to gain something from you. This behavior is not sustainable in a healthy relationship and can lead to resentment and hurt feelings.


What You Can Do About It

If you find yourself in a situation where someone is not taking care of you, even when it is obvious that you need help, there are a few things you can do. First, communicate your needs clearly. Some people may not realize that you are hungry unless you tell them. Let them know how you are feeling and what you need from them.

Second, set boundaries. If someone is not genuinely caring for you, it may be time to re-evaluate the relationship. You do not have to continue to invest time and energy into someone who does not value you. Set clear boundaries and stick to them.

Lastly, surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you. Seek out friendships and relationships with people who have your best interests at heart. These relationships will be more fulfilling and sustainable in the long run.


People who ask for the obvious instead of taking care of you can be frustrating and hurtful. However, understanding the psychology behind this behavior can help you navigate these situations better. Remember that genuine care is essential in any relationship, and it is okay to set boundaries when someone is not meeting your needs. Surround yourself with people who value you; you will find more fulfilling and healthy relationships.

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