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As a mother with a teenage son of color


, it can be challenging to see your son struggling without a father figure. It's even harder when you become your son's only source of support and guidance as he navigates his teenage years.

It's a daunting task to raise a teenage son without a father present. There are so many things that fathers typically help with or teach their sons - things that you may now feel ill-equipped to handle on your own. You may worry about your son making the same mistakes that you did or that he'll grow up feeling angry and resentful toward you.

It's important to remember that you are not alone in this. There are plenty of other mothers out there who are in the same situation. I remember when he was younger, he was always energetic and enthusiastic. He constantly ran around and got into mischief, but it was all good fun. Now though, he doesn't have any interest in anything. He doesn't want to go out and sit around in his room all day. I began to see that something was different about him. He didn't have the same drive as I did or the same spark of creativity. And try as I might, I couldn't ignite it within him.

As he entered his teenage years, my worst fears were realized. He had no ambition, no goals, and no dreams. He was content to exist, and it broke my heart.

I tried to convince him that he was unique and had so much potential, but it was all for naught. He just doesn't care.

You constantly walk on eggshells, never knowing what might set them off. And when they're angry, they're furious. It feels like they're constantly testing your limits, pushing the boundaries to see what they can get away with.

It's tough love, but sometimes you have to be the bad guy. The one who enforces the rules and disciplines them when they step out of line. It's not easy to play, but somebody has to do it.

And then there's the worrying. Worrying about where they are, who they're with, and what they're doing and worrying that they will get into trouble or hurt themselves. It's a mother's job to worry, but it's also a mother's job to love unconditionally.

I try to talk to him, but it feels like he's constantly pushing me away. It hurts because I want to help him, but I don't know how. I see mothers with their teenage sons, and they always seem to be having fun together, but I feel like I've lost that connection with my son. Furthermore, your son will likely understand and be more forgiving than you give him credit for.

Despite the challenges, being a mother to a teenage son can be a rewarding experience. You get to watch him grow into a young man, and you get to be the one who helps him through all of life's ups and downs.

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